December 17, 2024

Stephanie Battelle: Surviving the Shock of Suicide

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“Your kids don’t come with an instruction booklet.”

Stephanie Battelle: Surviving the Shock of Suicide

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It was 11:02pm. And it was Dale's phone calling me. It was his friend. She found him in his apartment, and basically told me that he was in really bad shape. He was really hurt. I asked if she could help him, and she said, "No, I can't." And I just said, "Help him! Why can't you help?" I couldn't even comprehend what she was trying to tell me. And a police officer got on the phone and confirmed who I was and then confirmed the news that Dale was gone. And so there I was in my hotel room, out of town, by myself.

Show Summary

In this heartfelt episode of Survival in the Trenches: Life Beyond Loss, Stephanie Battelle opens up about losing her son Dale to suicide and the profound journey of grief, healing, and advocacy that followed. Stephanie shares her personal story, from Dale’s early life and struggles with mental health to the devastating moment that changed her world forever. Through candid reflections, she highlights the importance of mental health awareness and breaking the stigma surrounding it.

This episode is for anyone touched by grief, mental health challenges, or suicide loss—whether directly or through someone they love. Listeners will gain insight into navigating grief, practical advice for finding support, and inspiration from Stephanie’s resilience and mission to honor Dale’s legacy.

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Stephanie Battelle

Guest - Mother

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Introduction and Background (00:0012:01)

  • Podcast sponsored by Bound Hat Company, supporting charities like PTSD Foundation of America
  • Host Kelly Chandler introduces guest Stephanie Battelle
  • Stephanie grew up in St. Charles, MO in a middle-class family with divorced parents
  • Stephanie had her son Dale in her senior year of high school
  • Started working at Express Scripts at 19, building a career there for 29 years
  • Dale struggled with ADD/ADHD in third grade, leading to therapy and counseling

‍‍ Family Dynamics and Dale’s Challenges (12:0221:32)

  • Dale thrived in hockey but started experimenting with alcohol and drugs in high school
  • Stephanie noticed significant changes in Dale’s behavior, including isolation and depression
  • Dale graduated from culinary school but struggled to start a career
  • Dale’s girlfriend became pregnant, adding pressure to his life
  • Stephanie received a call informing her of Dale’s death while out of town for work
  • Stephanie had to notify family members before news spread on social media

Grief and Coping Mechanisms (21:3334:22)

  • Stephanie took a leave of absence from work and sought various forms of support
  • Attended church, set up counseling sessions with her pastor
  • Started going to a bereaved parents support group
  • Counselor advised categorizing people into three groups: helpful, unhelpful, and neutral
  • Created a picture book of Dale to remember good times
  • Got involved with NAMI (National Alliance of Mental Illness) and AFSP (American Foundation for Suicide Prevention)

Moving Forward and Finding Joy (34:2344:35)

  • Stephanie’s granddaughter Iris, born 20 days after Dale’s passing, became a source of comfort
  • Focused on making memories and appreciating life differently
  • Attended counseling weekly for a year and a half, then monthly
  • Learned to experience joy again and share stories about Dale
  • Highlighted the lack of resources for siblings dealing with loss
  • Emphasized that grief is not linear and everyone’s journey is different

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It was 11:02pm. And it was Dale’s phone calling me. It was his friend. She found him in his apartment, and basically told me that he was in really bad shape. He was really hurt. I asked if she could help him, and she said, “No, I can’t.” And I just said, “Help him! Why can’t you help?”

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