November 26, 2024

Gina Schuster: A Widow’s Journey Through Love, Loss, and Healing

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“I have no shame in the life that he lived or the way that he died. I’m very proud of him.”

Gina Schuster: A Widow’s Journey Through Love, Loss, and Healing

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"People view it as they were in control, that it wasn’t dealt to them, they dealt it onto themselves. And I don’t think we know enough about mental health and the strength it has in making those decisions. It’s not about being weak. It’s not about not being loved. It’s about fighting a daily battle, a battle most people don’t understand."

Show Summary

In this powerful episode of Survival in the Trenches Presents: Life Beyond Loss, Gina Schuster shares her deeply personal journey through grief, mental health struggles, and the tragic loss of her husband, Corey, to suicide. Gina, a medical social worker, reflects on how her professional expertise in crisis intervention and end-of-life care intersected with the personal challenges she faced as Corey, diagnosed with bipolar disorder and struggling with alcoholism, navigated his mental health battles. Despite the knowledge and resources at her disposal, Gina explains how caring for Corey became a deeply emotional and painful reality, especially as they raised three children together. Her candid and heartfelt account of how Corey’s mental health struggles eventually led to his passing serves as a powerful reminder of the complexities of mental illness and the impact it has on families.

Gina’s story is one of resilience and transformation. She openly discusses how her family has worked through their grief, emphasizing the importance of honesty, community support, and seeking help. With the help of therapeutic tools like EMDR and involvement in a local widows’ group, she has not only found healing for herself but also dedicated herself to supporting other widows through the STL Crew. Her reflections on Corey’s life and struggles, coupled with her desire to raise awareness about the importance of mental health care and suicide prevention, offer hope to listeners facing similar challenges, underscoring the message that no one should have to face their struggles alone.

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Introduction and Background (00:0010:58)
  • Podcast: “Survival in the Trenches: Life Beyond Loss”
  • Host: Kelly Chandler
  • Guest: Gina Schuster
  • Gina grew up in North County with supportive parents and siblings
  • Initially wanted to be a doctor, switched to social work
  • Studied at Truman and St. Louis University
  • Specialized in medical social work
‍‍‍ Family Life and Challenges (10:5921:28)
  • Met husband Corey in fifth grade, became a couple in senior year
  • Corey joined Marine Corps for structure
  • Moved back to Missouri to start a family
  • Had three children: two sons and a daughter
  • Corey diagnosed with bipolar disorder in 2011
  • Struggled with alcoholism and mental health issues
Corey’s Mental Health Decline (21:2831:48)
  • Corey’s mental health deteriorated in 2019
  • Change in psychiatrist and medication
  • Gina learned to let go of perceived control
  • Honest with children about Corey’s mental illness
  • Corey supported others with similar struggles
Corey’s Suicide (31:4842:52)
  • Corey drank in front of kids, felt ashamed
  • Went to stay at Gina’s parents’ house
  • Found deceased the next morning
  • Gina informed children honestly about suicide
  • Community rallied around the family
Coping and Moving Forward (42:5253:19)
  • Gina focused on breathing and routine
  • Joined a widow’s support group
  • Kids are doing well, starting to talk more about their dad
  • Family remembers Corey on his birthday and patriotic holidays
  • Participates in American Foundation for Suicide Prevention walk
Resources and Future Goals (53:1901:03:31)
  • EMDR therapy helpful for processing trauma
  • Equine therapy beneficial for family
  • Mental health urgent care facilities now available
  • STL Crew: widow support group
  • Annie’s Hope: grief organization for children
  • Gina’s goal: Live a life big enough for both her and Corey

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